Recently I had to fill out a questionnaire for my statistics class that required for me to state my gender as either male or female, there was no third option. While this is one of the many complications of being genderqueer and identifying as neither gender it has caused me to question whether or not I am still comfortable using the female pronouns of she, her, hers, herself as my PGPs or preferred gender pronouns.
My first instinct to the question is to answer “I don’t know”. Then after giving it some more thought I think “why not?” This takes me even further down the rabbit hole to “Am I comfortable or just not uncomfortable? and if I am comfortable is it only because female pronouns are what I am used to using?”. Those questions take me even deeper.
Right now my internal consensus is that I am not uncomfortable with female pronouns just as I am not uncomfortable with male pronouns (he, his, him, himself). I am however uncomfortable with the idea of using gender neutral pronouns like ze or hir. I guess if it were possible I would like to be pronoun-less but I don’t know what that would mean on a daily basis. I can’t use person, that wouldn’t make any grammatical sense.
I really don’t know the answer to these questions and maybe just like the genderqueer thing, my PGPs will just hit me. But for now, until I figure it out what those are, I’ll still with what I’m not uncomfortable with, both female and male pronouns.