Moving ForwardBy Jake Stallman | Sep 4 2015 | 10:48AM
Being smart about how you are going to accomplish your dream is a great first step. Don’t be like me and think that the world will offer y...READ
Moving All DirectionsBy Jake Stallman | Jul 10 2015 | 3:47PM
Staring down adulthood is scary. We are the class of 2015, but we are the dreamers of the future.READ
Taking a LeapBy Jake Stallman | Apr 1 2015 | 4:04PM
I noticed when I was younger that I wasn’t like the others. I’m not talking about my sexual orientation. I had the dreamer’s disease.READ
Hoping to Save Money with ScholarshipsBy Jake Stallman | Feb 18 2015 | 1:39PM
I am working on scholarships and grant applications because I don't have to pay them back.READ
Welcoming 2015By Jake Stallman | Jan 7 2015 | 3:16PM
As we welcome 2015, I'd ask you to take time and think about what you are grateful about.READ
A Look at Same-Sex FamiliesBy Jake Stallman | Nov 11 2014 | 7:26PM
The changing views of same-sex families are creating a climate where children of gay parents and their “non-traditional” families are se...READ
Checking InBy Jake Stallman | Oct 15 2014 | 2:53PM
I'm super sorry that I have been missing from action. I'm currently learning a valuable lesson something called time management.READ
Learning to Love MyselfBy Jake Stallman | Jul 9 2014 | 1:41PM
It's hard to meet the seemingly perfect physical standards set for gay men, writes blogger Jake. Being a gay teen is already tough, and here...READ
Learning to Say GoodbyeBy Jake Stallman | Jun 13 2014 | 12:08PM
Jake talks about finally understanding true friendship after befriending an Danish exchange student.READ
On The Road in LaramieBy Jake Stallman | May 21 2014 | 3:25PM
I learned a lot in Laramie, but the most lasting was that 'One tragic event does not define a community.'READ
Sharing HopeBy Jake Stallman | Apr 9 2014 | 12:57PM
Jake Stallman and his mother were recently invited by the governor of Iowa to speak at the state house about his bullying experience.READ
Changing One Person at a TimeBy Jake Stallman | Mar 16 2014 | 9:40PM
Jake recently spoke about bullying and coming out at a youth conference. There were surprising outcomes, including helping a teen girl.READ
Jacob’s Safe Place
Jacob Stallman is the youngest member of the Matthew’s Place blogging staff and writes about his personal experiences overcoming homophobia and bullying as well as providing peer advice to young people.
“My life well, it hasn’t been the most ‘smooth sailing.’ What can I say? I am a sophomore in high school and am the only openly gay student at my school. You can say that makes me an easy target.
I have been bullied because I was fat; In fifth grade I was that fat kid who ran his mile in the longest amount of time. Yes, I was THAT kid. My 7th grade year came and the school offered track, and I thought to myself “It can’t get any worse from here.” So I did track. It was amazing, and I got skinny. I was tall and as skinny as a pole. I have been bullied because I am gay; Freshmen year I got called out on Facebook for being a fag. Sophomore year I was called out on Twitter, and then I received the death threat.
I remember that night that I received the death threat. I was crying so much, and I just didn’t understand why someone could hate someone so much they wanted to kill them. The next morning, I was scared to step out of my house afraid that someone was out there waiting for me. The person was caught, but that person turned into people. But I overcame what happened to me, with the help of my mom and family who started an anti-bullying campaign.
So, I have had enough of people pushing me around, so what do I do? I’m start to lift weights, and I am going to try out for cheerleading.