Checking InBy Jake Stallman | Oct 15 2014 | 2:53PM
I'm super sorry that I have been missing from action. I'm currently learning a valuable lesson something called time management.READ
Learning to Love MyselfBy Jake Stallman | Jul 9 2014 | 1:41PM
It's hard to meet the seemingly perfect physical standards set for gay men, writes blogger Jake. Being a gay teen is already tough, and here...READ
Learning to Say GoodbyeBy Jake Stallman | Jun 13 2014 | 12:08PM
Jake talks about finally understanding true friendship after befriending an Danish exchange student.READ
On The Road in LaramieBy Jake Stallman | May 21 2014 | 3:25PM
I learned a lot in Laramie, but the most lasting was that 'One tragic event does not define a community.'READ
Sharing HopeBy Jake Stallman | Apr 9 2014 | 12:57PM
Jake Stallman and his mother were recently invited by the governor of Iowa to speak at the state house about his bullying experience.READ
Changing One Person at a TimeBy Jake Stallman | Mar 16 2014 | 9:40PM
Jake recently spoke about bullying and coming out at a youth conference. There were surprising outcomes, including helping a teen girl.READ
3 Steps for College SavingsBy Jake Stallman | Feb 14 2014 | 4:53PM
I’m thinking about the cost of college, and I’m trying to see what I can do to decrease the cost.READ
Steve Grand: All-American BoyBy Jake Stallman | Feb 5 2014 | 1:54PM
An interview with Steve Grand, a gay country music sensation whose viral hit "All-American Boy" is shaking the sceneREAD
Stand UpBy Jake Stallman | Dec 4 2013 | 5:31PM
To me, this video isn't just some video a teenager from Iowa made. I needed to do this because kids out there all over the world are feeling...READ
Challenges & Turning Away From HateBy Jake Stallman | Nov 8 2013 | 1:55PM
We all have our reasons that we were put onto this big and scary world. Some have terrible things that happen that end up turning into somet...READ
Jake Stallman: Reflections on the Spirit of Matthew AwardBy Jake Stallman | Oct 22 2013 | 8:32PM
MatthewsPlace.com blogger Jake Stallman was named the 2013 Spirit of Matthew Award winner by the Matthew Shepard Foundation...READ
Comfort Zone Gone: I’m a CheerleaderBy Jake Stallman | Sep 4 2013 | 4:00PM
Take a step out of your comfort zone. You never know what can come from it. It could change your lifeREAD
Jacob’s Safe Place
Jacob Stallman is the youngest member of the Matthew’s Place blogging staff and writes about his personal experiences overcoming homophobia and bullying as well as providing peer advice to young people.
“My life well, it hasn’t been the most ‘smooth sailing.’ What can I say? I am a sophomore in high school and am the only openly gay student at my school. You can say that makes me an easy target.
I have been bullied because I was fat; In fifth grade I was that fat kid who ran his mile in the longest amount of time. Yes, I was THAT kid. My 7th grade year came and the school offered track, and I thought to myself “It can’t get any worse from here.” So I did track. It was amazing, and I got skinny. I was tall and as skinny as a pole. I have been bullied because I am gay; Freshmen year I got called out on Facebook for being a fag. Sophomore year I was called out on Twitter, and then I received the death threat.
I remember that night that I received the death threat. I was crying so much, and I just didn’t understand why someone could hate someone so much they wanted to kill them. The next morning, I was scared to step out of my house afraid that someone was out there waiting for me. The person was caught, but that person turned into people. But I overcame what happened to me, with the help of my mom and family who started an anti-bullying campaign.
So, I have had enough of people pushing me around, so what do I do? I’m start to lift weights, and I am going to try out for cheerleading.