Asexuality Series on 

Matthew’s Place features an in-depth series called “Ace Talk: Asexuality Uncovered.”

Series Introduction – Matthew’s Place Debuts Asexuality Series

Ace Talk: Asexuality Uncovered will span several parts and cover personal stories, asexual dating and relationships, frequently asked questions, and the politics of the asexual movement. Ace is a popular nickname for an asexual person. We hope the series will benefit youth who may be questioning their sexual orientation and also help educate all readers about asexuality.


Part One – Why Language Matters: Coming Out Asexual

“The more experiences in coming out I had, the more I found that people simply didn’t have asexuality in their vocabulary. It doesn’t occur to most people that some others don’t experience sexual attraction. This is mainly because the possibility of asexuality has never been discussed. Ignorance limits us in unpacking our identities, and occasionally causes us to limit others in unpacking theirs. We have to combat ignorance to be our whole selves and exist in harmony with each other.”


Part Two – Asexuality 101: Answers to the Most Frequently Asked Questions

-What is asexuality?

-Isn’t asexuality the same thing as celibacy?

-Do asexual people masturbate?

-How do you know your asexuality isn’t repression, from sexual abuse, or part of a mental illness?

-Why do asexual people choose to come out?

-Do asexual people have relationships? How does that work?

-What is romantic orientation?

-How do you know you’re asexual if you’ve never had sex? What if you just haven’t found the right person yet?


Part Three – Master List of Asexual and Aromantic Vocabulary 

A compilation of terminology related to the asexual and aromantic community.


Part Four – The Asexual Narrative: Coming Out, Obstacles & Intersections

All coming out experiences are different, and this hold true for asexual coming out stories. Just as it can for LGBT people, race, religion and disability status can play a heavy hand in the coming out experiences of some asexuals, who also often experience discrimination within the queer community.